{"id":1020,"date":"2025-01-16T11:55:02","date_gmt":"2025-01-16T16:55:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/?p=1020"},"modified":"2025-01-16T11:55:04","modified_gmt":"2025-01-16T16:55:04","slug":"the-magic-question-for-every-11-meeting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/archives\/1020","title":{"rendered":"The Magic Question for Every 1:1 Meeting"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"\">I figured out a magic question that I use at the beginning of every single 1:1 meeting, or any meeting I have with another individual, be it a direct report, skip level, investor, boss, whatever. Ready? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Magic Questions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">First, I have to say, I spend every day seeking Magic Questions. <a title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/jevnin\/\">If you know me<\/a>, you know that I am always searching for <a title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/archives\/996\">hacks that make my efforts more effective<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">A healthy part of my time as a UX leader was devoted to thinking about the perfect things to ask at a given moment. When you nail the perfect question, you unlock the most insightful answers, which is the most effective way to get to the right solutions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Magic Question for 1:1s<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">This question assumes you are meeting on a regular cadence with the other person, and the question is really easy:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"\">So, how is it going?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Now there are a few tricks to asking this question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"\">It should be the first thing that you say to the other person. I mean, maaaaybe you can have a little small talk first, but use this question when you round the corner to the meat of the meeting.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">You should ask it in the same way, with the same tone, every single time.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"\">And the tone you use has to be normal, boring even. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">Finally, the most important part: You have to listen and observe the speaker as they respond. Nine times out of ten, the response will not be anything interesting. They will simply say, &#8220;fine&#8221; or &#8220;oh you know, work is busy but good&#8221; or &#8220;great!&#8221;. You won&#8217;t think twice about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">But then, every once in a while, you&#8217;ll notice something different. A slight twinge in the person&#8217;s voice, or a hesitation before they respond. That is the moment where there is likely something you can help with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">When you notice that difference in tone, dive in. Ask, &#8220;are you sure?&#8221; You can also point out whatever you noticed. Most of the time, this will help open up the conversation so you can move forward and improve things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"\">That&#8217;s it! It&#8217;s easy, as long as you are diligent and attentive. I hope this helps!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I figured out a magic question for the beginning of every single 1:1 meeting, or any meeting I have with a direct report, skip level, investor, boss, whatever.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1020","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-professional"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1020","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1020"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1020\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1021,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1020\/revisions\/1021"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1020"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1020"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/josh.ev9.org\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1020"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}